I Googled her Twitter user name and eventually I found a tweet archived in which she was interacting with someone else. I tweeted that other user to find out of she knew anything about our mutual pal and to my good fortune, she had an e-mail address with which to contact her. I was relieved to learn that my pal with bad taste in music is just "taking a break" from Twitter and is doing okay, and that she'll return soon.
Just now, however, I received three direct messages from another young woman I've met on Twitter. She was brought to my attention because a young woman I know with Crohn's re-tweeted her one night and I got the distinct impression she was in a very dark place emotionally. I tweeted her to see if she was alright and she assured me it would pass. She is battling anorexia and depression, and she breaks my heart. I am reluctant to share her message to me, but I wish to have it archived for reasons I will explain momentarily.
thank you for being so awesome to me, I'm going to be deleting this account in hopes of overcoming this disorder.i just cant keep doing this
i'm going to be okay! i just cant have this around me. I hope life brings you all the wonderful things you deserve. you are a great writer
but most of all a great person. :)I readily admit to you, Dear Reader, that I am tearful right now. I so much want to just hug this young woman and find some way of chasing away her demons. I can't do either of those things, though. In fact, I can't even reply to her because she deleted her account while I was in the process of typing a response to her first direct message! I understand why she feels that participating in Twitter, at least with that account, contributes to her problems. I've discussed it in the past, but it bears repeating: We must always be mindful that our common woes are not the only aspect to ourselves. If all you talk about with someone is whatever issue you both have, then it's going to be an unsatisfactory relationship for one, but also it can create a sort of tunnel vision about your self-image if that's all you talk about.
To my young Twitter friend, I would say this: You are much stronger than you've let yourself realize. I don't refer to your discipline to fast, but rather the strength you summon to keep going, day in and day out, with that torment inside you. You have a sweet nature, and you're the kind of person the world needs to remind us of the good in ourselves. I wish with all of my heart that you reach a place where you've managed your health disorders and I want you to know that you're welcome to contact me any time you want. It doesn't have to be to discuss how you're doing, or how I'm doing. We can chat about anything at all, including our embarrassingly bad taste in music.
Seriously, I actually own this:
See also: "How to Form a Support Network"